Can I be real? Like really real? I was a selfish Christian for way too long. Courtship and marriage fixed that area real quick. There is no possible way to be involved in positive, thriving, deep relationships with other people and continue to be self absorbed. Now, I would have said I was so giving, generous and loving (at the time). However, I needed to die to my flesh in quite a few areas.
This may burst some people’s bubbles, or ideas of themselves. However, selfish Chistianity is dragging the Church down. Once we realize we may be “selfish Christians” we can repent and ask God to heal this area. Selfish Christianity may sound like an oxymoron, but just take a look through the Bible.
The beginning of Philippians was written to a church that very obviously dealt with pride and selfishness. Therefore, Paul had to write to them telling some of them to “have several seats.” We will talk more about Philippians later on in this blog.
For now…let’s talk about how to diagnose selfish Christianity.
1.) If you keep people around to constantly learn from them, but you never pray for them (or assist/serve them) you may be dealing with selfish Christianity.
2.) If you are constantly seeking a woman or man of God for “a word” because you feel like you can’t hear God for yourself (or you don’t want to put in the time to hear God)…you may be dealing with selfish Christianity.
3.) If you have not started studying the Word of God during the week and serving at your local church, but you come to church every Sunday, you may be a “selfish Christian.”
4.) If Christianity is a way to help yourself feel better, and serve yourself rather than serve other people…you may be a selfish Christian.
5.) If you are not serving in a local body of believers/ in a local church (ministry) but you are a committed Christian…you may be a selfish Christian.
6.) Do you find yourself talking to Christian friends more about your own problems, than listening to theirs and encouraging them?
Now, now, I know these definitions may ruffle some feathers. But if you’ve read this far, you must be interested to know why, right? So… you might as well keep reading.
You may have just moved to a new city and haven’t found a church (I totally understand this reason) but if it’s been more than a year and you have not joined a local church and instead you are listening to Pastor SoAndSo on Facebook live, Livestream, and YouTube instead of going to find a church…my friend, you are acting selfishly.
The local body needs your gifts, Pastor SoAndSo will get over you joining a biblically sound local church. Go read 1Corinthians 12 (the whole chapter). The body needs YOUR gifts. If you remain in isolation you will not mature. The body helps us to mature that’s why HebrewS 10:25 says:
“Not forsaking the assembling of ourselves together, as the manner of some is; but exhorting one another: and so much the more, as ye see the day approaching.”
We build the body up with our uniquely created skill sets and gifts. You are being selfish if you are not sharing your gifts for the edification of the body of Christ.
Let’s Grow Up! We can no longer stay on spiritual milk when we need to be on meat. The body is under spiritual warfare now more than ever, and we need some spiritual giants to rise up! Will YOU be the next Billy Graham (not literally but figuratively okay)?
Satan has somehow convinced us (our generation) that we don’t need the body of Christ the church. But think again, we actually do need each other (please, please read 1 Corinthians chapter 12 & 13).
Next…if you are a “church hopper” and you just “hop” to church or make friends just to “get a word,” you are not actually considering anyone but YOURSELF.
What about if someone needed a word from you? YOU WERE TOO BUSY BEING CONCERNED WITH YOU that you forgot about your sister or brother in Christ.
Philipians 2:3-4 says:
Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves, not looking to your own interests but each of you to the interests of the others.
Are YOU considering others as more important than yourself? Are you looking to the interests of others above your own?
Look…I can say these hard truths cause by golly, I’m in a small town in Africa… so I’ve hopefully got some distance between me and people reading lol (that’s a side note though).
Are you serving others faithfully where you are? Or…are you a leech sucking the Word of Life from others, but unwilling to grow up into spiritual maturity.
Look, I know growth is hard. It means dealing with people (totally understand cause I’m an introvert too). It involves getting hurt sometimes, and forgiving others. But people are who God uses to grow us up in Him.
Hmm, let me stop here before I start preaching. But I encourage you to take a step back and look at your spiritual life. Are you selfishly receiving without growing up through serving others? Christ came to serve so also we who call Him Lord and Savior should also be growing in maturity and serving others.
If you have found some pieces of Yourself in this definition I encourage you to repent of selfishness. Pray to God to show you how to grow in spiritual maturity. And join a local church and start serving.
Love you much, and God loves you so much more!